Book Tour: Catholic Family Fun

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It’s an honor to be part of Sarah Reinhard’s Catholic Family Fun Book Tour!  I was reading something else when this book arrived in the mail, but I dumped that in a hurry. You see, I’ve been a fan of Sarah’s blog since she was mom to only one child (she has three now, like I do.) This book celebrates the fun we all want to have with our families and shows us how things like building a backyard obstacle course, eating breakfast for dinner, and singing camp songs are not only family fun, but Catholic family fun. 
What I like best about Catholic Family Fun is that you don’t have to go all “Clark W. Griswold” on your family to incorporate the activities described in this book.  Just build it in; don’t force it.
Activities in the book are apropriate for a wide range of ages and can be modified if you (like me) have a big age gap between the kids.  Age gaps mean ability differences and huge variations in interests, and that’s an extra challenge when planning family activities.  With that in mind, the ideas in this book are labeled according to duration, cost and prep time.  The rest will vary, depending on how many children (and friends) are involved, and their ages.
Chapters in this book include such topics as silly things to do, story starters, crafts, food, outdoor fun, family field trips, saints, service and prayer.  There’s a handy appendix at the back that shows you at a glance how much prep time, money, or run time is needed for each activity.  Of course, your mileage may vary there, given your particular family circumstances, but it’s great to have a general idea.  Additional resources include a Facebook page and Catholic Family Fun website, which will be updated regularly with new activities and “extras” to coordinate with the book!

My only problem with this book?  It didn’t come along until my youngest child turned 10!  I really could have used it when my Big Kids were little, but nooooooo.  Sarah is young enough that she could have been my Big Kids’ babysitter.  For that matter, Sarah is young enough that I could have been her babysitter.  But we’re peers in parenting now, and I have a huge respect for her.  Read her books or her blog and you’ll find out why.

This is a book that will benefit parents, grandparents, teachers, catechists and friends.  Have fun together, and celebrate being Catholic all at the same time! 

Want your own copy?  Ask for it at your local Catholic bookstore, or visit the Catholic Family Fun website or Sarah’s book page for purchasing information.  At $11.95, it’s a family-friendly bargain!

I’m a stop on Sarah’s Virtual Book Tour!  The only bad thing about the “virtual” part is that I don’t get to meet her in person.  But read enough of her work, and you’ll feel like you know her already.  If you’re late to this Book Tour party, just use the link above to see all the reviews and interviews along the way.  I’ve found many wonderful “new-to-me” blogs thanks to this tour.

Disclaimer: I received a review copy of this book, but no other compensation, for my participation in this Book Tour. All opinions are mine.

Putting the "Anti" in the Antipasto

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A whole lot of dinner showed up here yesterday, thanks to three wonderful friends.  Fortunately, it all arrived early in the day, with cooking instructions, so we didn’t have to choose among three hot meals.

One meal came complete with antipasto.  I’m not sure how, but “antipasto” is a foreign concept to the males of this household.  The nature of the dish itself is as much a mystery to them as its pronunciation.
I swear, if someone calls it “ant-EYE-pasta” one more time, there might be violence committed.  I would not be convicted by a jury of my foodie peers–or my linguist ones, either.
Little Brother was a little leery of the idea of antipasto until I told him it was a big “ham-alami.”  That’s what he calls the ham-and-salami rollups that I sometimes make for his lunches.  When he came over to the table and saw the platter, he was sold.
Except for the Swiss cheese.  (How’d that get in there?)
In any event, it was all delicious and we’re looking forward to the equally-delicious-looking main course, which is almost hot enough to eat.

The Media-Savvy Catholic Parent

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As the mom of three children, ages 20, 16 and 10, I’m right in the thick of parenting digitally-active kids in an ever-more digitally-active age.  We consume media around here.  I’m probably the only one in the house who reads books anymore–and half the time, they’re e-books.  The rest of the family stays informed through television, radio, and various new media.

In my house, you’ll find computers, iPods, iPhones, iPads and a Kindle. You’ll find video games and a Netflix subscription.  We’ve got satellite radio and satellite TV.  While I’m the only one who blogs, three of us tweet and four of us Facebook.  The ten-year-old wishes he could, but we think he’s too young for that.

And in my house, we’re Catholics.  The kids go to Catholic schools (and, in one case, a Catholic university.)  We attend Mass weekly and our children serve as musicians and altar servers.  Our reality includes grace before meals–even when friends come over to visit, my own life as a Secular Franciscan, and “prayers upstairs” with the 10-year-old before he goes to bed each night.

Books like Infinite Bandwith:  Encountering Christ in the Media are encouraging to me as a parent.  Author Eugene Gan discusses the digital realities that our children (whether young children or young adults) encounter each day without being heavy-handed.  Media of all sorts are a part of just about everyone’s life, and Gan shows parents ways to use these media tools to help others learn about–and grow closer to–God.  Gan’s book explains seven “media keys” to help people approach the use of media in a sensible, faith-filled way, so that the media we consume can nourish our faith and that we can use media to inspire the faith of others.

This review was written as part of The Catholic Company product reviewer program. Visit The Catholic Company to find more information. I received a review copy of this book, but no other compensation, for the purposes of this review.

Communion and Community

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Last night I got out of the house for the first time in 8 days. It took me about that long before I was willing to get into a car again! But our once-a-month Saturday-night Mass gig was this weekend at the Big Church, which is only one mile away, so I figured I could do it.

Except for the homily, I stood for the entire Mass. Sitting is difficult. I can’t sit gracefully or comfortably. I sit like a cellist who has just had her instrument stolen. And then, of course, there is the Wearing of the Yoga Pants– just about any other pants are out of the question right now.

But in that church, the musicians are located in a spot where no one sees how you’re dressed or that you’re pacing around back there during the Creed. So it worked.

I paid for that one-mile car ride, but it was worth it–SO worth it. I paid for the singing, which works the abs more than you might realize. But what I received? Hugs, good wishes, smiles and inquiries about my health from friends, neighbors, fellow musicians, deacon and pastor. The grace of just being there at Mass. The gift of singing at Mass (I was not foolish enough to try to bring my guitar). And the Eucharist, the whole reason I needed to be there.

A friend and fellow Franciscan stopped by last week to bring me Communion. I treasure that. And I treasure yesterday’s venture to church as well. These past couple of weeks, I have really been reminded of what it’s all about: Communion and community. I am grateful–very grateful–for both.

Power parenting

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So Little Brother is in the backyard, playing soccer with two of the Street Urchins (boys his age who live down the block.). I’m listening with half an ear to the goings-on, since twice already this week that soccer ball has scored a direct hit on the pool filter, disconnecting the hose.

And my mom had dinner all ready, so she headed out the back door to call Little Brother in. When he didn’t follow, I called him out the window and that’s when my mom told me that one of the boys was telling Little Brother to stay outside.

I’ve found this child ignoring his own mother more than once when she’s come to tell him it’s time to go. He has flat-out refused to leave with his older sisters one day when they were sent to get him.

In a few short weeks it’ll be summertime, and all the Street Urchins will want to swim in my pool. I hate being the Bad Cop all the time, but somebody has to. With a pool in the yard, there are safety issues. You have to supervise and know who’s there and who’s in the water. You have to make sure they play and swim safely. (And you have to require kids who live on your block to bring their OWN towels.)

I think, before summer, I need to come up with a game plan. Suggestions are welcome.

UPDATE:  Thanks to some GENIUS suggestions in the comments and from a neighbor, I’ve worked up this template.  Sharing it here for other families in my spot–and I’ll amend this as necessary.  But kids will have to leave one with me before they swim here.

From the Department of: At Least He’s Honest

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Little Brother just wandered through here with his favorite soccer jersey in hand.

“Nannie, thank you for washing this,” he told his grandmother.  He’ll wear that shirt as often as it’s clean, and sometimes when it’s not, if he thinks he can get by me.

“Where did you find THAT?” she asked him.

“In the dryer,” he answered.

“Wait,” I interrupted.  “You tumbled through the dryer to find that?  I hope you didn’t tumble any other clothes out onto the floor…”

“I put back the ones that fell on the floor.”

To love, honor and obey

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Every January, my Secular Franciscan fraternity celebrates with a ritual called Extraction of Saints, in which we are assigned a patron saint for the year, a virtue to develop, a maxim to live by, and another fraternity member to remember in special prayer.

This year, my virtue was Obedience.

I knew I was in for it when that one came along. Ask God for a virtue and He’ll generously respond with a challenge to help you get there.

This is not to say that I think God is in any way responsible for the medical condition (endometriosis) that led to my recent surgery. I don’t think that’s how things work. But that surgery is an opportunity for me to use God’s grace to grow in virtue.

It’ll be another three weeks, at least, before I’m allowed behind the wheel. I can’t be running down the basement stairs, hauling laundry, mopping, vacuuming, and bending over to get heavy pots and pans out of the cabinets.

They sent me a babysitter in the form of Mom for this week, to make sure I don’t do anything I shouldn’t. Next week, my husband will be working from home with the same end in mind. But I admit, I’m not super-tempted to cheat at this point. Thought about it on Monday, then reconsidered.

The resentment about not being able to do my usual things is evaporating. Offers of help from friends are accepted, tough though it can be for me to let someone do things for me. Grace has been busy, I guess. And I am very blessed, and very grateful.

 

Hello, yes, it’s been a while…

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Here I am, hanging out on the couch at home. I am recovering well thanks to the insistence of my family that I spend this time resting. They even sent for a babysitter in the form of Mom, because I definitely require that kind of policing.

My house has never been so clean.

Middle Sister held down the fort in the after-school hours quite admirably last week. She cooked, cleaned up, and fussed at the hygiene-averse Little Brother.

Once I recovered from the Evil Epidural from Hell, which kept me semi-anesthetized and completely glazed over for several days before I said no to drugs and kicked the double vision, I was on my feet quickly. My incision is smaller than what I was led to expect, and it’s held together by Crazy Glue. (Don’t go there. Yes, it’s probably appropriate.)

I got very good care at the hospital, but a separate rant about facility design is in order. But the staff? Top notch.

This Time Tomorrow…

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I just keep telling myself, “this time tomorrow, it’ll all be over.”

I’m called for 11:00 at the hospital, for a 1:30 surgery time.  It’s clear liquids only, all day today, and nothing after midnight.  Not even water.

My neighbor kindly offered to feed the rest of my family so that I wouldn’t have to cook/clean up/smell/watch them all eat dinner.  I’m sitting here with a mug full of nutritious, yet boring, homemade chicken stock.  Or maybe turkey.  I use those interchangeably.  I have the broth in the mug with the picture of a Hershey Kiss on it, vainly hoping that the placebo effect will kick in and make it taste more like chocolate and less like, well, chicken.

My handy-dandy new pocket rosary will be coming along for the ride and I’m sure it will see plenty of praying action this week.

I’m going to have TheDad update my Facebook and Twitter (@franciscanmom) after surgery, but I probably won’t be back in this space until I have access to a computer or iPad.  That may wait until I’m home.

You all have my deepest gratitude for each and every prayer and word of encouragement that you have already offered.  Please keep on praying!

Things To Do Before the Weekend

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In a way, this is my personal response to Hilary Rosen’s comment last night that stay-at-home moms don’t “work.”

There are a lot of loose ends to tie up around this house before I walk out of here Monday morning and return Thursday or Friday, only to have to lie around with my feet up for a while and let other people do what I usually do around the house.

TheDad wants me to write down all the stuff that he will need to know.  Even then, I know that I’ll have kids calling me at the hospital asking me where stuff is and how to do this or that.

Things I MUST get done:

  • laundry
  • dust and vacuum my bedroom
  • write out logistics concerning:  lunches, school bus
  • make tutorial cookbook for Middle Sister
  • square away the Secular Franciscans for next week’s meeting (that’s this afternoon’s task)
  • get my wedding ring removed (and then repaired, so when I’m out of the hospital I can wear it again)
  • grocery list and shopping

Things I SHOULD get done:

  • make arrangements for Anointing of the Sick
  • get ahead (if possible) on the publicity work I do for Room Two Productions
  • finish the last bit of freelance work
  • check on library books
  • clean the bathrooms

Things I’d love to get done but I’m well aware that they “ain’t gonna happen:”

  • take down curtains, launder them, return them to windows
  • launder, starch and iron living-room tablecloths on end tables
  • a really detailed vacuuming of the whole house, including Couch Diving
  • scrub my kitchen floor before my mother shows up here and does it
All this in the next day and a half, because Saturday is busy and Sunday I’ll be doing prep, which means I won’t want to be doing any heavy work.